How You Can Help Your Child Succeed at School

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Everyone wants their children to do well at school, although parents are the biggest teachers of all in a child’s early life. Then they start leaving you every day for their lessons, but you can still be a big influence on how they progress in school and in the rest of their lives.  There are many things you can do to help support your children through their school days. Not every child can be top of the class, but you do need to know that they have achieved the best they are capable of.

Make Friends With Their Teacher

As soon as a school year starts you should get to know the teacher.  Let them know that you are there to support your child and if there are any problems you want to be informed right away. They should also be aware that you like to reward good work with a ‘well-done’, so you want to know if they excel at something as well.

Make sure to attend all official parent-teacher meetings, but never be afraid to speak with them at other times too. You should also remember that the teacher is not the only person that can affect your child, as there are others that dictate the way the school is run, as well as administrators and lunchtime staff. The more of them that you know, even if it is just to say hi, the more you will understand how your child can do well in the school you have chosen for them.

You can also find that the school your child is in is underfunded and that could be a great concern for the teachers and those in charge. Teacher Funder has been set up to help tackle this problem as it allows parents, students, and businesses to make donations to the school.

Support Your Child

Ask your child’s teacher how they are doing compared to other students, and if they need extra help in a particular subject, either do it yourself or arrange for some extra lessons. If they are having trouble learning generally, it could be that they need a specialist teaching and you should ask for this.

You should let the school know about your concerns and perhaps arrange a meeting with the teacher and the principle. Your child has rights if they need a specialist help, and they will be able to give you the advice you need.

Let your children know how important homework is and make sure they do whatever they are given. Don’t be afraid to help them with it if the need arises, as they can get very stressed out if they do not understand something and the teacher is not there to help.

If you cannot help them in a particular subject, make sure they have the resources they need for answers. There are many of them online that are there to assist children of all ages.

When they know they have tests coming up, they can become worried about them and you can help by showing them how to prepare and overlook through their work with them to double check that they understand it. A worried child will not do so well in tests, as one that is confident that they know the subject. You can help them to gain that confidence.

 

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Be Involved With The School

Teachers appreciate help in the school, no matter what form it comes in. If you can spare just a few hours each week to volunteer, your children will see this as a positive move and will be proud that one of their parents is giving up some time to help at the school. It does not have to be anything academic as there is much more to running a school than teaching. Help could be needed preparing things for an art class, or at break time watching the children play to make sure no one gets hurt. There are all sorts of jobs that you could help with and this could free the teachers to concentrate on what they should be doing.

Encourage Learning At Home

Have a positive attitude toward learning at home, and the best way to do this is to show them that you are still learning too. Show them that you value education and use it as part of your daily lives to reinforce the principle.  Even some video games are educational and you should encourage them to play these as well as the normal ones that most children play. Learning through play, no matter what age they are is a good way for them to remember things. Playing cards, for instance, can help them with mental arithmetic and Scrabble or Hangman can assist them with spelling.

Reading, of course, is very important, but it does not have to be things they have no interest in. It is better to read a comic book than nothing at all, as they will still learn from them.

It is not only school subjects that you should encourage them with. A documentary on TV can be a great way for them to learn about something new, as long as it is fitting for their age.

Children respond well to active learning and it can also teach them to be independent and to learn things on their own.

Let Them Play

Although learning is crucial for your children, so is just being a child and having fun. You should let them play with their friends as then they are learning how to socialize and how to treat other people and that is an important part of them growing into well-rounded adults.

Don’t just tell them that manners matter; use them all the time yourself. They will learn more by example than any other way, especially when they are very young.

Teachers play a vital role in the education of your children, but so do you. Their attitude towards school work and school life often reflects the attitude at home and if you show them the importance of education, without putting them under too much pressure to do well, they will work to achieve the best they can and that is all you can ask of any child.

Should Expectant Moms Read Birth Stories?

It is safe to say that the internet is full of birth stories, as this quick Google search result demonstrates:


472,000,000 results for the term “birth stories” perfectly makes the point: birth stories are ubiquitous online, with millions of women willingly sharing the tale of how their children were brought into the world.

Most expectant moms will be familiar with these stories; they tend to be found on any website that offers pregnancy and birth advice, after all. However, while these stories are incredibly commonplace, there is a question you should ask yourself before clicking a link: “is this a good idea?”

 

What to expect from birth stories

In the best case scenario, a birth story will:

  • Make you feel more confident about your impending delivery
  • Make you aware of things you hadn’t been aware of, so you can now plan for the same eventualities
  • Make you feel, well, warm and fuzzy inside

The above experience is the one that many expectant moms imagine they will encounter when they click a link to read a birth story – and this is the experience they will usually have, too. Birth stories are incredibly affirming and enjoyable to read, and they can provide insights that an expectant mom would have had no other way of knowing. However…

 

Birth stories can be traumatic

Some women have wonderful, smooth births but, unfortunately, some don’t. When you click on a link to a birth story, in most cases, you will have no idea which type of story you are clicking on.

This can mean that you click on a story that you subsequently find traumatic or even frightening, especially if it deals with issues severe enough to require the writer to have eventually visited the likes of www.DolmanLaw.com/legal-services/birth-injury-attorneys/ to obtain legal recourse for their experience. Some birth stories deal with myriad complications and, in some cases, emergencies. These stories can make a lasting impression on an expectant mom, causing a tremendous amount of stress, anxiety, and even panic due to concerns over the idea of experiencing something similar.

 

How to approach birth stories

When you are pregnant, it’s natural that you are curious about what birth was like for other women – but, as pointed out above, it’s important to be cautious. Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

  • Look for trauma warnings. Many birth stories will include these at the top of the post or even in the title; if you see them, read no further.
  • Don’t try to convince yourself it’s helpful to read both good stories and concerning ones; in most cases, it isn’t. If you read one concerning and nine good, it’s the worrying one that you will remember.
  • If you find yourself reading a birth story that seemed fine but becomes harrowing, back away, even if you suspect everything turned out fine (for example, the post has pictures of the mom and her baby in it). There may still be details in the story that you find distressing or worrying.

 

Final thoughts

Birth stories are fantastic when you have had your baby, but when you’re still expecting, it’s usually best to avoid them. For advice and support regarding your pregnancy, speak to a medical professional or your friends and family. If you do want to look online, opt for a forum that is designed for expectant moms specifically such as https://www.babycenter.in/c25000192/pregnancy-forums, and avoid any thread titles that suggest a birth story is contained within.

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Time-Out For Mom: When You Need Looking After Too

So many women, particularly moms, have hectic and busy lives where it’s a talent to juggle home life and kids, with any sort of job, and countless other responsibilities. With so much going on each day, it can be difficult to find some time to take for yourself, to relax and have a pamper session. However, it’s important to take one day, every one to two weeks, to indulge in some serious relaxation (preferably away from the rest of family life). You’ll be able to relax your mind and chill out, ensuring you’re ready to take on whatever the upcoming days bring you (which are bound to be busy with little ones running around). The following are some ideas for busy mamas who could use an hour or two to themselves so that they can recharge and tackle mom-life head on.

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Bath Time Isn’t Just For Kids

Running yourself a warm bath can start the relaxation process straight away; the sound of the water hitting the tub will chill you out before you’ve even stepped inside to soak. Pour in some luxury bubble or oils, and begin to treat your skin to some much-needed relief and moisture. Lighting a lavender-scented candle and playing some chillout music, will also help to create a relaxing ambiance. If you don’t have a bath, treat yourself to luxury shower gels, oils, and hair products, so you’ll step out smelling dreamy.

You could also fill a tub, or foot spa, full of warm water, and get comfy while your feet soak. Whether you read a book or magazine, watch breast reduction videos, or catch up on that Netflix season you’re loving; take the time to do the things that you can’t do while you’re taking care of your little ones. Whatever makes you feel better, allows you to plan for the future, or just takes your mind elsewhere, should be your focus during this time.

 

Skin As Soft As Your Baby’s

Once you’ve soaked and cleansed your skin, it’s time to hydrate it further. If you’re a fan of mud or sheet masks, the bath would have been a great opportunity to lay there wearing one; or perhaps you showered and use one afterward as you use your foot spa. Choose a facemask that’s suitable for your skin type, or that targets any specific skin issues you might be having. After removing the mask, it’s time to indulge it even more with moisturizers and serums.

Again, it’s wise to choose specific products that will help any skin issues you might be facing, so a specific serum, or a brightening moisturizer for lackluster skin, might be appropriate choices. Now is also a great opportunity to lather the luxury body cream you bought yourself or were gifted as a treat, all over your body and limbs. Foot creams tend to be very rich in their formula, so treat your toes and heels to some and pop some cotton socks on for the rest of the night as it soaks in. It’s all about discovering what your skin suits and needs, and finding products that work the best for you; which is totally the fun part! Now get your favorite, freshly laundered P.Js on and get cozy.

Easing The Stress Of Being A Mom Will Help Your Family

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Working comes with a whole host of stress. You’re basically dealing with stress from nine to five, with small glimmers of hope and sunshine dotted about. Working as a mum is 24/7, which kind of gives you some inkling as to the amount of stress that is involved. Thankfully, it i the best kind of stress imaginable. It is fun and unique and amazing, inspiring and worthwhile, totally worthwhile, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t stressful too.

Yes, every single mum situation comes with its very own unique set of circumstances. It comes with the territory. But so does the need for you to constantly place an emphasis on your own health and well-being, and don’t for one second think that is selfish. Your being healthy is the catalyst to your family being healthy too.

So, here are some top tips on how to stay healthy, stress-free and sane as around the clock mum. After all, you deserve it.

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Get A Granny-Nanny

We all have that moment when we search the internet for some help, someone who can assist with the kids for just a couple of mornings a week. That would be enough. Well, why not make that someone a granny-nanny. These are semi-retired women that typically don’t have family close by. Nurturing people that will cherish everything you do. They are people that love baking, gardening, reading, coloring-in, and they know how to ace homework, while also cherishing the wonders of children. They are people that want to be involved with children, that’s the key and, in return, you’ll be relieved of some of the stress. You can do those errands you needed to do or just grab a pinch of personal time.

Schedule Your Personal Time

Yeah, this may sound sad, at least to begin with, but if scheduling in some personal time in the same way you would schedule an appointment is the only way you’ll get it, then do it. Personal time is so important. Seeing friends, getting that soft tissue massage you promised your doctor you would get, seeing friends for a coffee, going for a run, having your nails done, or just sitting in a quiet park. Whatever floats your boat on that day. Don’t feel guilty about this either. We all need a bit of peace and quiet, and your family will thrive if you grant yourself that space. Just make sure your family knows that these are appointments, one’s that you can’t miss.

Bring A PA Into The Family

This idea of having a personal assistant to help in your personal life can be so rewarding, for everyone, especially if you are a mum that balances working with being a mum. The more you accept them into your family the better it will be too, not least because they will have such an important part to play. The reason we are referring to them as a PA is because that will help you distinguish their role a bit more. In the same way, you would lay out a set of tasks for an assistant at work, do the same for them each morning. Then they will know exactly what you would like doing, what principles you cherish and what is important to you, like the operation #dontforget you are championing. All this can be achieved while they also ensure your kids laugh from the moment they get picked up from school to the moment you get back from work, and you won’t feel stressed about the tasks that haven’t been done because, well, they will have been done. A PA is a right-hand person, someone you can trust no end, so why not have someone like that to help with your children?