An Important Life Skill: Starting To Teach Our Children To Take On More Responsibilities

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Responsibility is one of those things that we need to teach our children at some point, but we could feel that there is no need to do this until they are of a certain age. Responsibility starts early on in life, but how can we teach our children responsibility, no matter their age?

A Reward System

This is something we can start as soon as our children are mentally aware. They do something good, they get a reward. And this is the key to so many of the essentials in life that we want our children to do, from eating their greens to looking after the pet. It’s just that the reward turns into something different as your children get older. It could be chocolate, to begin with, but it could be something more substantial later in life.

Not Turning It Into A Chore

Rather than saying that our children have to do something, think about wording it in a different way so that they don’t feel like it’s a chore. Chores signify things that are boring, so consider making it part of the fun. For example, if your children don’t want to brush the family dog, ask your children to go and play with the dog instead, and take the brush with them. Sure, they may not brush the dog, to begin with, but if you can encourage them just to smooth the dog once, and the next time, they do it twice, it will have turned into a chore that they didn’t want to do, but has now become an automatic habit.

The Essential Duties

This is essential, especially when it comes to family pets, the essential duties like medication and hygiene are high up the scale of importance and as our children get older, we can trust them more with these duties, we can lay the foundations early on. We can do this by getting our children to sit with us while we administer the essential meds, or CBD oil, or whatever you need to do for the dog. And if the kids don’t know how much CBD oil for dogs is too much, then you’re there, guiding them every step of the way. As your children get older, and they get more comfortable with these very important duties, you can slowly step away safe in the knowledge that they know what they’re doing.

The Mindset Of “Cleaning Up After Our Own Mess”

And if you’ve got children that don’t take responsibility for anything, you’ve got an uphill battle. It’s important, as soon as possible, to teach your children that they are responsible for the mess that they make. If we lead by example and show that if we make a mess, we clear up after it ourselves, this sends the right message. But we have to keep reiterating this. These days, it’s easier for us to do something, rather than ask our children 50 times. But this has to stop. If you want to teach your children responsibility, it’s as important as getting your children to exercise, to study, and all of the important skills in life.

Some Pointers For Mastering The Art Of Parenthood

 

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Being a parent isn’t easy. You probably knew that before you even had children because it’s something that other parents never stop saying. Of course, when you actually have kids, you truly appreciate how difficult it is to juggle your many responsibilities. Obviously, you were probably prepared in the sense that you knew you’d have these responsibilities, but nobody can be prepared for how tired they’ll be once they become a parent. It takes a while for your brain and body to adjust. And if you want some pointers to help you master the art of parenthood then the following pieces of advice should give you the answers.

 

Get help from friends, family members, and babysitters.

The first step for mastering the art of parenthood is learning to take a step back. That might sound like the exact opposite of any advice you were expecting, but it’s important. As we’ll discuss throughout this article, you’re the best parent to your kids when you’re the best version of yourself. And that’s why you need to know when to take a break. You might want to get a “granny nanny” to help you out. The beauty of hiring help from semi-retired (or fully-retired) women is that they’ll be ready to devote themselves to looking after your children at the drop of a hat. Of course, the same thing could be achieved by getting help from friends, family members, or babysitters to look after your children.

 

The important thing is that you need to accept help wherever possible to look after your kids. You don’t have to do everything on your own, even if you have the help of a partner. In fact, getting assistance from friends or babysitters can give you and your partner the opportunity to go out for a nice meal. Or you could simply ask for help from family members and friends when you have some chores you need do and appointments you need to make. The people close to you will appreciate that you have many errands which need to be completed on a daily basis. Whether you have babies or teens, you can’t be in the house 24/7 to keep an eye on everyone and everything. It’s important to give yourself breaks from time to time, whether it’s a break to do errands or a break to relax and enjoy yourself. If you get others to help you spread your responsibilities then you won’t feel as if there’s a weight on your shoulders. This will help to protect your sanity and make you a better parent to your kids.

 

Keep up with school.

Whether your kid is entering pre-school or they’re on the verge of starting college, you probably feel as if you’re going through the educational experience with them. And, with an adult’s perspective, you probably take it more seriously than you did when you were the student. Obviously, this is also because you want your child to be as successful as possible. Whilst you can’t sit your child’s exams for them and you shouldn’t do their homework if you want them to learn, you should be aiming to keep up with their school progress. You can provide support and guide them through their homework. And, whilst all kids hate this, you should ask them about their day when they get home. The best thing you can do, as a parent, is to simply let your child know you’re there and ready to help them.

 

You might also want to get involved with the school on a personal level. If you want to ensure that your kid has the best possible educational experience then help to make sure the school works as well as possible. This doesn’t mean you should tell teachers how to do their jobs, but you should make appointments to discuss issues if you want to make sure you’re getting the full picture of your child’s progress. You could even give suggestions that might help the school out. NST help teachers to organize school trips on their website. You could suggest that the school uses this resource to keep things structured and to keep parents in the loop. The point is that every parent should make sure they know as much as possible about the curriculum and the general structure of the school their child attends. Don’t simply get all of your information straight from the mouth of your kid (especially if they’re not very talkative when it comes to school).

 

Teach them about values.

You should also aim to teach your children about the things they should value in life. Obviously, this will vary from family to family. It depends on the things you personally believe, but there are certain things that every child should learn at a young age. You should teach your kid the value of honesty, patience, respect, and being kind to others. These are the core traits that we all need to possess in order to care for our family and people we meet in the world. If you want to be the best possible parent to your child then you need to give them the skills they’ll need to do well in the adult world.

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Look after each other.

As mentioned earlier, being a good parent is about being the best version of yourself. You need to look after your physical and mental wellbeing in order to take care of your child’s physical and mental wellbeing. The best way to achieve this is to look after one another in your household. You could have weekly family catch-ups to see how everyone is doing. It’s a chance to open up about any problems members of the family might be experiencing at home, work, or school. You can all provide support for each other. Of course, those weekly meetings are also a chance to open up about good things that have happened throughout the week or simply to tell stories about funny things that have happened. It’s an opportunity to keep connections strong in your family. Bonding is the best way to look after each other. It’s about making sure everyone in the family knows that they’re valued and loved by everyone else in the family.