An Important Life Skill: Starting To Teach Our Children To Take On More Responsibilities

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Responsibility is one of those things that we need to teach our children at some point, but we could feel that there is no need to do this until they are of a certain age. Responsibility starts early on in life, but how can we teach our children responsibility, no matter their age?

A Reward System

This is something we can start as soon as our children are mentally aware. They do something good, they get a reward. And this is the key to so many of the essentials in life that we want our children to do, from eating their greens to looking after the pet. It’s just that the reward turns into something different as your children get older. It could be chocolate, to begin with, but it could be something more substantial later in life.

Not Turning It Into A Chore

Rather than saying that our children have to do something, think about wording it in a different way so that they don’t feel like it’s a chore. Chores signify things that are boring, so consider making it part of the fun. For example, if your children don’t want to brush the family dog, ask your children to go and play with the dog instead, and take the brush with them. Sure, they may not brush the dog, to begin with, but if you can encourage them just to smooth the dog once, and the next time, they do it twice, it will have turned into a chore that they didn’t want to do, but has now become an automatic habit.

The Essential Duties

This is essential, especially when it comes to family pets, the essential duties like medication and hygiene are high up the scale of importance and as our children get older, we can trust them more with these duties, we can lay the foundations early on. We can do this by getting our children to sit with us while we administer the essential meds, or CBD oil, or whatever you need to do for the dog. And if the kids don’t know how much CBD oil for dogs is too much, then you’re there, guiding them every step of the way. As your children get older, and they get more comfortable with these very important duties, you can slowly step away safe in the knowledge that they know what they’re doing.

The Mindset Of “Cleaning Up After Our Own Mess”

And if you’ve got children that don’t take responsibility for anything, you’ve got an uphill battle. It’s important, as soon as possible, to teach your children that they are responsible for the mess that they make. If we lead by example and show that if we make a mess, we clear up after it ourselves, this sends the right message. But we have to keep reiterating this. These days, it’s easier for us to do something, rather than ask our children 50 times. But this has to stop. If you want to teach your children responsibility, it’s as important as getting your children to exercise, to study, and all of the important skills in life.

All Children Need Outside Time: Here’s How to Encourage It

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Every child should be able to get completely caked in mud and have a brilliant time hunting for worms but in our over-clean, over-protective modern world, fewer and fewer children have the opportunity to run wild. This is a major issue because exploring the natural world is one of the best ways to begin understanding its complexities and beauties.

 

The good news is that parents can still spark the love of the outdoors in their kids, it’s just going to take a little more creativity than our parents required! While running about on a pitch and getting exercise is a great start, here are a few ways to introduce your kids to the natural world they could easily miss.

Learn and Play in the Garden

Learning to cultivate plants is one of the greatest gifts you can give to a child and from grass heads to proper lawn care, a bit of soil, a few seeds, and some patience are all you need to get started. Try planting a few quick growers like grasses or cress with young children and then gradually progress onto plants that take a little longer and are a bit more difficult to grow.

 

Getting outside and into the garden is also a good way to introduce your children to the various other species that live and thrive there. Leave some bird food out to encourage visitors and don’t be afraid to rummage around to find bugs and critters. The more you see these creatures in their natural habitat, the easier it is to love them as part of the environment.

Go on Walks

We might think of ourselves as tamed indoor creatures but getting out to see the nature that surrounds us will always inspire us. Taking a short walk each week is a brilliant way to add secret exercise to your day but it is also a good way to connect with the seasons and notice any changes.

 

If you’re feeling creative, try collecting small items that you can make a collage with later on. Leaves, flowers, and twigs are all candidates for this sort of artistic activity. Young kids will probably need a bit of jollying along if you are on a long walk so remember to take snacks and drinks and play games as you go!

Build a Den

Whether it’s an amazing treehouse with a slide or a ramshackle hut, having a den is a great way to encourage your children to get outside and play. A kid-sized space is ideal for encouraging a bit more independence as well as giving them a space for messier activities.

 

Adding swings and fun decorations is a great idea to personalize the den. String lights can look really cool if your kids are old enough to be responsible in the dark but even simple bunting can make a huge difference. The more you can do to encourage your kids to get out into the sunshine and build and create the better so don’t make this easy for them!

How You Can Help Your Child Succeed at School

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Everyone wants their children to do well at school, although parents are the biggest teachers of all in a child’s early life. Then they start leaving you every day for their lessons, but you can still be a big influence on how they progress in school and in the rest of their lives.  There are many things you can do to help support your children through their school days. Not every child can be top of the class, but you do need to know that they have achieved the best they are capable of.

Make Friends With Their Teacher

As soon as a school year starts you should get to know the teacher.  Let them know that you are there to support your child and if there are any problems you want to be informed right away. They should also be aware that you like to reward good work with a ‘well-done’, so you want to know if they excel at something as well.

Make sure to attend all official parent-teacher meetings, but never be afraid to speak with them at other times too. You should also remember that the teacher is not the only person that can affect your child, as there are others that dictate the way the school is run, as well as administrators and lunchtime staff. The more of them that you know, even if it is just to say hi, the more you will understand how your child can do well in the school you have chosen for them.

You can also find that the school your child is in is underfunded and that could be a great concern for the teachers and those in charge. Teacher Funder has been set up to help tackle this problem as it allows parents, students, and businesses to make donations to the school.

Support Your Child

Ask your child’s teacher how they are doing compared to other students, and if they need extra help in a particular subject, either do it yourself or arrange for some extra lessons. If they are having trouble learning generally, it could be that they need a specialist teaching and you should ask for this.

You should let the school know about your concerns and perhaps arrange a meeting with the teacher and the principle. Your child has rights if they need a specialist help, and they will be able to give you the advice you need.

Let your children know how important homework is and make sure they do whatever they are given. Don’t be afraid to help them with it if the need arises, as they can get very stressed out if they do not understand something and the teacher is not there to help.

If you cannot help them in a particular subject, make sure they have the resources they need for answers. There are many of them online that are there to assist children of all ages.

When they know they have tests coming up, they can become worried about them and you can help by showing them how to prepare and overlook through their work with them to double check that they understand it. A worried child will not do so well in tests, as one that is confident that they know the subject. You can help them to gain that confidence.

 

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Be Involved With The School

Teachers appreciate help in the school, no matter what form it comes in. If you can spare just a few hours each week to volunteer, your children will see this as a positive move and will be proud that one of their parents is giving up some time to help at the school. It does not have to be anything academic as there is much more to running a school than teaching. Help could be needed preparing things for an art class, or at break time watching the children play to make sure no one gets hurt. There are all sorts of jobs that you could help with and this could free the teachers to concentrate on what they should be doing.

Encourage Learning At Home

Have a positive attitude toward learning at home, and the best way to do this is to show them that you are still learning too. Show them that you value education and use it as part of your daily lives to reinforce the principle.  Even some video games are educational and you should encourage them to play these as well as the normal ones that most children play. Learning through play, no matter what age they are is a good way for them to remember things. Playing cards, for instance, can help them with mental arithmetic and Scrabble or Hangman can assist them with spelling.

Reading, of course, is very important, but it does not have to be things they have no interest in. It is better to read a comic book than nothing at all, as they will still learn from them.

It is not only school subjects that you should encourage them with. A documentary on TV can be a great way for them to learn about something new, as long as it is fitting for their age.

Children respond well to active learning and it can also teach them to be independent and to learn things on their own.

Let Them Play

Although learning is crucial for your children, so is just being a child and having fun. You should let them play with their friends as then they are learning how to socialize and how to treat other people and that is an important part of them growing into well-rounded adults.

Don’t just tell them that manners matter; use them all the time yourself. They will learn more by example than any other way, especially when they are very young.

Teachers play a vital role in the education of your children, but so do you. Their attitude towards school work and school life often reflects the attitude at home and if you show them the importance of education, without putting them under too much pressure to do well, they will work to achieve the best they can and that is all you can ask of any child.