Rekindling The Flame In A Long-term Relationship

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Has the fiery passion that once existed in your relationship been reduced to embers? It could be time to rekindle that flame.


Many couples in long-term relationships can end up settling into a dull routine. Here’s how you can break free of monotony and make your relationship exciting again.


Go on dates

Dates are a great opportunity to focus purely on each other, which could be needed if you’ve both been distracted by other commitments. You don’t have to go out to an expensive restaurant – simply spending a couple hours together somewhere out of the house may be all you need whether it’s walking around a park or going for coffee. It’s important to not involve anyone else who may steal the attention. This means not meeting up with friends or family. If you have kids, it’s worth getting someone to babysit. This way you’re forced to talk to one another and connect.


Try new things together

The beginning of a relationship is often fun because the two of you are going through lots of new experiences together. By trying new activities, going to new places and tasting new foods together you can recapture that excitement. Examples could include trying a salsa dancing class or going ice skating or trying oysters – anything that neither of you have done.  


Surprise each other

Surprises can also rekindle the excitement of being in a relationship. This could include sending a romantic text out of the blue or looking into flower delivery and having some roses delivered to your partner’s workplace or even throwing a surprise breakfast in bed. Such surprises will show that you still care for your partner and may fill them with that initial giddy feeling of love.


Come up with joint goals

It could be worth coming up goals that you can both work towards. This forces you both to work together and support one another. This could be a savings goal such as saving for a dream vacation or saving up to move home. Alternatively, you could try to learn something new together – this could be a new language or an instrument. If you’re both out of shape, you could even vow to get fit together by taking part in joint exercises such as jogging or going to the gym together.


Keep physical contact

Physical contact is also very important for keeping a connection between you. Whilst having kids may result in less time in the bedroom, you can still try to make an effort to hug and kiss one another each day. Hugs, in particular, can be a small gesture with a big impact – they can help to relieve stress and make you both feel supported. If you haven’t been getting physical, it could be time to start breaking down the barrier – you don’t want to get to a stage where it’s awkward to touch one another.

Date Night

Recently my husband and I had the rare chance of getting away from the two munchkins for the night. We consider these nights once in a blue moon kinda deals. It just so happened that we had my mother-in-law handy and was willing to watch over our two boys. So, as I packed an “away from mom for the night bag” my husband planned our night out on the town. Because I was busy with my own task I had no idea what he planned. This made for an awesome surprise! To begin, we dropped the boys off and took a 1.5-hour road trip to Sugarland, TX. (one of our favorite places). Our first stop was new to us restaurant called Antonia’s Cucina Italiana restaurant & bar. Italian food is hands down my favorite and my husband scored major points with this choice.The food and staff were phenomenal! Once we stuffed our faces with great food and a couple of glasses of wine, we were off to the next stop.



The next stop was a bar in Houston, TX called Firehouse Saloon. It seemed like a hole in the wall kind of place so I was really unsure of why we were at the location. It was only about two drinks in did I realize why we were at the location. Both my husband and I enjoy a Texas Native’s music by the name of Bart Crow who just so happen to be playing live there that night! We enjoyed a few alcoholic drinks and watched an awesome live show that never seems to amaze me! What a night it ended up being. At the conclusion of the show we headed home to retrieve our boys and enjoy a good night’s rest. I can’t wait for our next “once in a blue moon” nights!